POST BY :- GARVIKA JOSHI
Few days before as I was going through you tube I came across much talked series “13 Reasons Why?” Having heard so much about it I went ahead to see it, and all I can say the series depicted many of teenage problems. No. This isn’t a review blog for the series. But what story of Hannah Baker left for us are some of hard hitting questions and circumstances that teenager of today has to face. Is being a teenager today really that easy?
With social on tips, perfectly shaped bodies ruling the media constant pressure of being “cool”, and freezed moments of happiness posted on Instagram deciding your fate, aren’t we all losing ourselves somewhere in between? And that’s the so called golden period. Well.
Maybe the modern world has given us so many options, choices and opportunities that we have started taking them for granted. You don’t like this person. Oh well ditch them. Blind date didn’t work? Well, there’s tinder!
Swipe. Rate. Judge. Swipe.
This is what we had made of ourselves today. We don’t look for happiness anymore. We look for likes. We look for “love” and “wow” reactions. We look for comments. For shares. For re tweets.
Instead of looking inside the facades we, ironically SEEK facades. The most attractive ones. Someone who could make all your friends go wow and envious at the same time.
Hannah’s story is the story of why she chose to end her life. And trust me it isn’t just Hannah Baker’s story. Suicide is a reality for many teenagers today. Mental illness is not something to be hushed about. Depression isn’t something you need to keep obscured from the world. Mental illness is a reality. Suicides are a reality. Teenage problems are a reality. A reality we need to acknowledge and work forward to. It is a generally conceived notion that not showing your tears and keeping a fake smile plastered across your face is a symbol of bravery. Thousands of nonsensical memes tell you of how you keep that ‘fake smile’ when you are feeling shitty inside and to add cherry on top they make you feel extraordinarily proud about it. However, the whole idea putting masks, keeping facades and building walls is gullibility. Stupidity. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like talking, talk. Keeping it bottled inside is NOT going to help. Depression, anxiety, loneliness, emotional insecurities are not something you have to be shy talking about. Crying is not a synonym of weakness, for who would be stronger than the person who is not afraid for the world to see his scars?
Teenage problems and peer pressure is something we need to talk and sort out. We need to realize that number of likes and comments on our selfies do not determine the kind of person we are. We need to realize that these few freezed moments of happiness do not and should not govern the way we lead our life. Not having a girlfriend or a boyfriend or not being in a staggering eye drawing relationship is NOT something you have to feel ashamed about. Being a virgin or a ‘person who hadn’t got his first kiss’ is NOT something wrong. It’s your choice and you need to feel proud about it. Mental illness is something we need to address.
Teenage years are elusive. Teenagers are fragile. To the teenagers out there I ask. Is suicide really a solution? Maybe just maybe you are failing to see the path just ahead you. Maybe you just need to close your eyes in order to see.
To the parents I ask. What is more imperative for you? What would Sharma jib say if he knew your child is suffering from depression or what would your conscience say if your child takes a drastic step?
The choice is yours. For it is our choices which shape us. Either for good or worst.
I know you all must liked the post … all cheers to teenage, it is a gift which degrades so better to enjoy with much of it before it empties..
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