“Everybody knows what my sexual orientation is. I don’t need to scream it out. If I need to spell it out, I won’t only because I live in a country where I could possibly be jailed for saying this. Which is why I Karan Johar will not say the three words that possibly everybody knows about me.”
When I was seven(eight?), I saw an award show where the man I quote above did some effeminate dance steps. I vividly remember being surprised and to be honest uncomfortable because never in life had I seen a male doing something so feminine. So the seven-year-old me I asked my grandmother questions about the neatly dressed gentleman. I do not remember what she said.
But whatever it must have been was inadequate for my curiosity was still ablaze.
But you know how seven-year-olds’ are? The world is full of unicorns for us. And so I paid no more heed to it.
But now that I think of it, seven would have been the appropriate age to tell me how people come in all colors, shapes, races, and orientation. That some of us are inherently different.
My next encounter with LGBTQ was when I was a teenager. And when the words of like lesbian and gay were thrown around as abuse. Because obviously why would you like someone from your own gender? Boys like girls, girls like boys. Period.
What kind of freak you have to abhor this norm?
And yet something was amiss. As I grew older and fortunately more mature the idea of labeling people as freaks for something so pious as love seemed to grow distant. It was just so natural. Why should I have any sort of problem with two people engaging in a consensual relationship regardless of its nature?
What kind of freak would I have to be in order to have no respect for somebody’s privacy?
Not a good one. I assure you.
And yet the idea of letting people live freely, without clouding their lives with our judgments and perceptions seems so unnatural to society.
Sex education has made its way, albeit slowly, into our lives. And yet we do not talk about various sexualities. And why is all I ask?
India has 2.5 million people who are documented as gay. And yet we pretend as if they do not exist. As if they are, some cosmic logic I fail to grasp, less of human beings than we are. The IPC 377 was a mockery of democratic ideals India has for so long kept on a pedestal. The jeers, the comments, the taunts to people of LGBTQ community are all a satire on our democracy. And for it to be supported by the state through a law a supreme irony.
I have seen people condemn homosexuality on basis of religion. And I being a Hindu by religion would likely refute your claims if they contain a fancy jargon of how your ‘sanskriti’ does not allow such immoral acts along with the request to actually study the ‘sanskriti’ of which you are such an ardent supporter. To strengthen my opinion I would like to quote Poulomi Hari a Quora user who described the relationship between Hinduism and homosexuality in a coherent and evasive way after a mammoth research.
“Sushruta Samahita (600 BCE) mentions 4 types of homosexual males and two types of homosexual females. The most notable term for “gay” in Sanskrit is Mukhebhaga while the “Lesbian” translates to *Swairini* in Sanskrit. Sushruta, the legendary surgeon strictly mentions that homosexuality is a birth issue and that no amount of medication, surgery or mental treatment would change their sexual preference. They would stay who they are because they are born this way. Sushruta strictly forbids people to force them marrying opposite sex. In one of his controversial lines, he mentions, “not even raped women shall be forced to marry a *Mukhebhaga”. *Though this line may offend most people, I completely see his concern for Homosexual males’ freedom and acceptance.
Among homosexual females, the best story goes back to the birth of King Bhagiratha. It is said that he was born by the union of his widowed mother and her female lover, who was also her childhood friend. Because female genitals were called “Bhaga” in Sanskrit, hence their child was called “Bhagiratha”. Of course, there is magic involved in the creation. Some say they drank a potion created by illustrious sages. Some say the child was born without bones, and that Rishi Bhringi blessed the child with bones.”
The religion accepts it. So do the rational minds. And if the act of people living their lives the way they want disgusts you, makes you uncomfortable then my friend, probably it it you who is a freak.
This is post by Garvika Joshi who loves to explore the society but she herself is a misfit who boldly speaks against the beliefs that are themselves misfit in todays speedy and progressive world.